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Text by Katie Kerl, Copyright 2018
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Photos Courtesy:
The Kink Shoppe. Copyright 2018
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Caff Adeus. Copyright 2018. Instagram link: https://instagram.com/cvffvdeus?utm_source=ig_profile_share&igshid=yoz6ylh74fdv
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NEW YEAR SEXPLORATION
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It’s the end of 2018 and it hit me , I’m going to be 35 in a few months . Previously I talked about some serious life issues, but now for some fun. Thinking back on it, I’ve pretty much brought to life anything I’ve ever wanted to do sexually. Sex is so much better in your thirties than in your twenties . People are more open with who they are, what they want, and ASK FOR IT.
I’ll never understand couples who do not talk about what gets them off. How can you marry someone that does not turn you on, or make you orgasm? The longer you’re in a relationship the more interesting it should get. Sex is all about trust. Telling someone you like to be choked almost to the point of death isn’t exactly something you reveal on a first date. It does come out eventually.
When talking to someone about what they like I always wonder why? I think personality has so much to do with our sexual preference. Someone in a higher level of employment under a lot of stress often likes to be dominated. They are telling people what to do all day and don’t want to do it when they get home .
Extroverts have the try anything once attitude . They are not afraid of threesomes , being bi-curious , sex in adventurous places, and are playful . They communicate exactly what they want and get it. An introverts dream if they need someone to bring them out of their shell.
The narcissist, now they are killers. They tend to have no boundaries when it comes to satisfying their own sexual needs. Even if you’re in a relationship. They will cheat and not think anything of it. Narcissistic people think the world wants to F*ck them and take every opportunity that comes their way. Usually the good, bad, and ugly. Just because they can.
People that can’t get out of their own head also like to be dominated, tied up , & choked. If you’re cutting off someone’s air supply, they are forced to focus in the moment and enjoy it. It also makes sensation better when they let go of the grip .
Philadelphia is a very sexually accepting city. Some of the best places to eat are in the gayborhood . If you’re looking to dance all night you will absolutely have a good time. There are many nice adult stores that do classes and demos for interested couples trying to spice it up. Recently, I heard of a suspended bondage demonstration at KINK SHOPPE, an upscale adult store in Old City. Obviously, I needed to see what this was all about. I’m not going to say I didn’t need a bit of liquid courage to get tied and hung up, but it was a lot of fun!
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After happy hour I stopped by the shop. It was free to watch and $5 to be tied up and suspended. PhillySir was the one who ran the demo. My name was called and I stood as he proceeded to tie me up. A few pulls later I was hanging in front of a group of strangers watching me spin around this holiday decorated contraption.
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Upside down I was trying to imagine what it would be like at home. It was fun to do something completely different after work on a Friday PhillySir runs his own dungeon and from the sounds of it he is pretty busy with clients. I do not think I’d take my curiosity to the dungeon, but at home for sure.
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If you’re in a stale relationship, try talking to your partner. They may be just as frustrated. Talking to who you love shouldn’t be. I think having open lines of communication is really the goal. It’s not going to be half as bad as you’re thinking. Even if they tell you something they have hidden from you. Realize sex is personal and there is no normal. They were just afraid of being judged. You both may laugh in the end being afraid to communicate your needs. Take some photos and have a boudoir session. Buy some toys and dress up. After all, Tis the season to be naughty!
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Happy Holidays to you all!
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