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A. Swingers Life
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Introduction by Katie Kerl
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When I started interviewing women in alternative lifestyles killing it, I didn’t think it would end up a series for Tony Ward Studio.
Tony continued to capture vixens after I took a mental break from writing last year . That’s the thing with this , I often shutdown when going through something. Then pick right up where I left it when the smoke clears . This has been my therapy and mini- biography for the better part of 6 years .
This time I had some help recovering from darkness. I met newly appointed vixen K. Nicole at Dragon-con outside of her catering tent. Her energy was so good, I snapped a photo and added it to my Instagram tagging her business
Only, two months later K. Nicole reappeared in my office as a new partner of ours . I immediately asked her if I knew her never forgetting a face, and it hit me, Dragon-con ! We were in the middle of an event and I ignored everyone else around me . I know when something special is in front of me . We talked and found we were one and the same personality wise . Strong trauma driven women pushing boundaries to elevate away from things that hurt us .
K. Nicole has impacted my life in such a positive way. Networking is so much easier with a counterpart that has equal drive and determination .
I went though something personal in March, and not only did she ride it out with me , her two beautiful children did as well. I had always wondered about kids. If I would get to pass down my intelligence, and all my parents actually taught me .
However , I never saw anyone that disciplined theirs correctly from my generation. K. Nicole and her husbands military background has set a standard for their children. They are well behaved & so sweet. I fell in love with all of them immediately. I’ve been blessed to have all four of them in my life. Now wanting to parent myself one day .
I wanted to give K. Nicole what set my own soul free here at Tony Ward Studio.
K. Nicole’s story is a remarkable one . A woman that went though the hell of the military, suffered a great loss, is an exceptional business woman, wife , mother, creative, and friend.
I can’t imagine my life not having met her. I’m sure readers will feel the same way. It’s impossible finding driven female friends in your late thirties that are not riddled with guilt, bitter, or simply unmotivated . We’re spiritual dreamers curating life around us .
I could have recapped my life since then, but rehashing darkness does not bring in the light.
K. Nicole was that light for me . Thank you for being exactly what I needed . An amazing friend, and forever family.
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Text by K. Nicole, Copyright 2023
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There is no better feeling than taking care of business by day, vixen by night. I’m 36, happily married with two beautiful girls under 5 and an owner-operator in the food service, entertainment & transportation industries. My story is one of love, tragedy and perseverance. You might read this and think my life is that of fiction but believe me, you have no idea the half of it.
Growing up in Brooklyn, NY, I started running track at a very young age. My mother is from Trinidad & Tobago and my father is Jamaican. Both met at an international track meet running for their prospective countries. The apple didn’t fall far from the tree as I followed in their footsteps gaining accolades and excelling in the sport. At 17, I attended one of the SECs top track & field powerhouses as a student-athlete on a full scholarship. Although my time in college was mostly consumed with competition and schoolwork, I found myself exploring on my free time with my sexuality. I have since embraced my love for women as well as for the opposite sex. I have a deep love for anything that makes me feel good, human energies included.
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My relationships have always been open. I learned early from my father that it was important to be honest with myself and with others at all times. Individuals that I became involved with, knew about one another and I was lucky enough to have fulfilling interactions without hurt feelings. We were young and exploring so there were never any hard feelings. Upon graduation, I found it quite difficult to find suitable employment due to both, ‘lack of experience’ because of my age and ‘over qualification’ due to my degree. It prompted me to enlist in the military if I wanted to succeed further in life with promise of travel and gaining rank based on merit. Against my mother’s wishes, I joined the Army and less than 6 months into my contract, I was deployed to Balad, Iraq after graduating Airborne School. I guess you can say I was the perfect Soldier. Army life was similar to that of being a student-athlete. I understood the mission as well as what was expected of me as a servicewoman under contract. Once again, I soared in my purpose mentally and physically and I guess you can say, I was the perfect Soldier. Beautiful, young, smart, driven & athletic. A trained animal as some might view it. The day I met mv husband was the first day of the rest of my life. Cliche as it might sound, it’s true. I was 22, new in the service and recently deployed to a war zone. He was senior enlisted, and a southern gentleman deployed to another unit on the same fob. He made my experience a more comfortable one from the moment we met. The sex is what solidified my commitment to him. He accepted me for who I was and did not shy away from my beliefs of ethical non-monogamy. The best way to describe it, was that I found love in War. He proposed 8 months later, and we were married at the Justice of the Peace right outside of Ft Benning, GA after I returned from my deployment a year after our first date.
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Over the next few years, we explored our newly joined sexual freedom and relations through experiences our travels allotted us. We met so many beautiful people and experienced so many different ways to push the limits on our trust and loyalty to each other. It wasn’t easy but it was worth it. I was more experienced in this field as I was a self-proclaimed Unicorn ever since finding myself in college. I had various interactions with other couples as their “plus one” as well as having long term lesbian relationships. It was my honor being a mentor to the man I loved the most. The lifestyle that I lived, required sexual openness and alternative love. I had someone that I saw a clear future within terms of having a complete mind, body, soul fulfillment. Six years into our marriage, my husband submitted his papers for retirement. Soon after, we discovered we were pregnant with our first son together. I decided at that point, my time in the military wouldn’t be the same without my husband and I was discharged a month apart from him. Looked like our days of playing would be put on hold for a bit. But for great reason. At this point, anyone would think life right after the military would be peaches and rainbows.
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Unfortunately, at my 20-week pre-natal visit, my doctor noticed an abnormality with my baby’s heart. I was referred to a cardiac specialist immediately. The news we received following was devastating. Legitimately heart breaking – pun intended. The baby that I’ve been wanting for so long with the man I loved the most in this world, had a congenital heart disease called HLHS better known as Hyper-plastic Left Heart Syndrome. In layman’s terms, our miracle baby only had half of a heart. What makes this even worse is that there is no known cause, and it occurs in every 1 in 100,000 births. How could this happen to us? 74 days…1,776 hours of the most painful experience that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. From the time our son was born, he spent every second of his life in the cardiac ICU with me by his side.
My husband found refuge in culinary school, educating himself on meals specific for our son’s condition. He wanted to cook for his heart so to speak. Unfortunately, our son’s heart was too sick to obtain reparative surgery. We were informed that, an entirely new heart would be his only saving grace. Can you imagine the mental and spiritual struggle of waiting for a newborn to die just to save my own son?! On day 74, our Heart Warrior lost his battle and gained his wings. I died inside on that cloudy morning and to this day, I never saw the world the same.
In 2016, my life officially ended, and my world began. I decided to take my life’s purpose into my own hands. My husband and I founded a full-service catering company named after our late son. Our mission focus was strictly to spread joy by creating customized plates specifically for your pallets straight from the heart. Using recipes from my Caribbean background and from my husband’s Louisiana heritage, we turned our tragedy into a culinary love story.
2017 was an even better year as we started an audio-visual production company known for distributing silent disco headphones and equipment to clients all over the world. Silent parties are for attendees to listen to tunes only they can hear. Various activity’s such as festivals, silent yoga, spin class, walking tours, wedding receptions and even corporate conferences with companies such as Amazon World Services, FOX Studios, and even ONE Music Fest to name a few of our major corporate clients. We also house a division of disc jockeys managed and contracted to be the gatekeepers of the vibes in any event setting.
We kept ourselves booked and busy. That same year I gave birth to then oldest of my beautiful daughters. Two years later, I had my third child another girl to keep us engulfed in parenthood. Sometimes, I still wonder how I can I keep going… But then I think, who else is going to do it? As I climb up the tree to success, I keep telling myself the answer is at the top waiting on me. I know you’re wondering. When did we ever have to play? We couldn’t.
Between juggling two successful business, two toddlers and managing a private chef for a husband, I had no time to indulge in my deepest and darkest desires. I had to keep my impulses at bay for the sake of healing and enjoying another chance at motherhood. It doesn’t mean that we’d treat ourselves a few times over our multiyear break from the lifestyle. Every once in a while, we’d get a certain itch to release all of the pent-up energy and go on the hunt for some fresh meat. My husband was always better at the introductions, the small talk. I’m so much better in person because at that point, I would have already made up my mind to take our encounter to the next level or not.
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Fast forward the last 24 months. We lived in Mexico for a year expanding our businesses and giving our daughters a different experience as their love for travel grew. We have expanded our companies to include Atlanta, its surrounding states, the Treasure Coast and South Florida. It has been a true blessing to meet so many people from various countries and backgrounds along the way. The lifestyle internationally is unmatched. My most favorite aspect about our escapades hands down include traveling to foreign islands and meet couples or Unicorns blindly. Who doesn’t love a good one-night stand? Upon our return to stateside my husband and I learned so much more about ourselves and each other than we did our entire 14 years together. We realized how much we love to see our partner genuinely happy. May it be with someone else or each other. We are best friends first, and we are each other’s wingman for life. It gives me such a great pleasure to see my husband pleasing other women. Most of the time, we’ll rendezvous with the most fascinating individuals as I sit back and enjoy the show. Our online lifestyle profiles are filled with amazing couples that we maintain personal relationships with to this day.
Not too long ago, the introduction of our lifestyle brand Good Vibes Only has become my main focus. With popularity growing, we used our platform as a way to fuse an upscale vibe with casual conversation amongst a group of likeminded couples, unicorns and select singles. We host a series of lifestyle meet & greets in classy locations providing attendees with the opportunity to enjoy a date night to explore on their own pace without the pressures to play if not ready. It’s exciting to see new and familiar faces we have the pleasure of meeting at our events every month. No matter the state, when we post an event, the response is overwhelming.
The more people we meet on our journey, the more I learn about the sexual natures of others and my own limits as a woman, a wife and a mother. Fun fact, my friends call me Agent K, short for K Nicole. One side of me is a dominating sexual deviant force while the other just wants to spread love and connect positive energies. Every story matters. Maybe mine can be a reference for any woman feeling like she can’t have it all, but today I write this as a testament that it can be done. It boils down to how big is the fire fueling the journey to her big picture.
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Editor’s Note: This is K. Nicole’s first contribution to Tony Ward Studio.